Coming up to the festive season we can find ourselves becoming anxious about all sorts of things, from issues with money, family relationships and planning the festivities. It may feel particularly stressful because we all want others and ourselves to enjoy the days we have planned, and somehow we feel we should be happy and jolly.
Stress can also be triggered through workplace situations, dealing with difficult people and an overwhelming workload. We all have our own version of stress, different things will cause stress reactions for different people, but what is important is how we deal with these stress reactors.
This is where meditation and mindfulness comes in, we are learning to sit with our thoughts, feelings and emotions as they arise and fall away again. We are trying to bring our wise attention to the experiences in our mind and body and to do this in a kindly way, without harsh judgement.
But because our everyday mind is conditioned by the past and has developed habits, we can find ourselves drawn back to replay familiar roles or behavior, particularly at holiday times with our family.
What we need to do if we can, is remember the changes we have already made through meditation the success's we have already had. This is useful in stressful times because we often add problems to our experience by adding negative judgements about our abilities to change.Thinking such things as why am I always like this? Why can't I........ ? or I will never get this right, for instance.
If we can keep up practice too, just the 3 minute breathing space during busy times, it will make a real difference to our experience
Gradually we will find ourselves understanding more clearly and quickly the stress triggers in our experience through paying attention with mindfulness, the first aspect in dealing with stress. Then we can put our mindfulness into the practice of watching our experience without getting caught up in our thoughts and feelings. This allows us the peace of not automatically reacting to people and situations and reduces the levels of stress in our life.
